Friday, October 19, 2018

THE VIDEO - The kids learn our secret




Atlas took a few moments, but you can literally see the wheels turning and all the emotions rushing into him. Yes, he is bawling. Yes, he is happy. In fact, I'm not sure he has ever been happier.

I have the best kids! I have the best family.

*They were told before school on October 10th. #BestDayEver

Thursday, October 18, 2018

The kids become biggers


When we got pregnant with Aria, Atlas helped me convince my husband of her name. Every night we said our prayers and included "God Bless Aria." And for an 18 month old to say this, it was adorable!!!!! Somehow we convinced Bob that if our first baby was saying this was her name, it must be her name.

Now both kids are SO BIG and they know what it means. They have friends who have babies living in their houses. Aria has no idea what it means to be a big sister, but Atlas has an idea ;) He's been a big for over 6 years and he is really really good at it! Aria is so nurturing and kind. I always thought she would be a great big.

But days after Aria was born we moved 8 states away. We left our birth team, our friends, my mommy group, our midwife. It never felt like the right time. We were living in Pittsburgh and by the time we had both kids walking in snow, I never wanted to go through babies/toddlers in snow again. That quadruples the work for any menial errand.

Almost a year ago we moved back to Orlando!! Guys, never say never! My mother used to tell me that I would eat my words. "We are never moving back to Florida" "We are never ever moving back to Orlando" "We are never having more kids" and here we are!!

The kids like to be super annoying and for the past 2 years their favorite annoying saying has been, "I want a baby!!!" The husband was like, "how about a dog?" and now they want both. I told Bob I want a baby first. Ok... so now we are having a baby and I fear the dog really does come next.

We really wanted to wait until closer to Halloween to announce that we were expanding. But I was expanding faster than I expected and at about 12 weeks we finally told the kids and then our family and friends.

The kids reaction deserves it's own post.

Surprise! We aren't surprised


Our #3 is currently cooking.

The first two have spent hours every day asking for a baby for the past few years. That never happened the first time around. In fact, I'm not sure Atlas really understood what was happening inside me until he watched Aria being born and that was a little scary and new to him, at 2. We can ask him to this day if he remembers.

What he remembers about Aria's birth: Mommy got in a tub and the dog barked and mommy got really loud. Then everyone crowded around and daddy picked me up. Then a baby came out of mommy.

He is suddenly 8 and a half and starting to ask questions about life. I looked at Bob, "This is it, this is where we turn little kids into real live humans."

For me, learning about the birds and bees was pretty traumatic and talking about it was off limits. I know it would be denied today, but when I was about 7 I chanted a little ditty around a neighborhood child who ran to my mom to tell her I used the word "penis" and I got my mouth washed out with a bar of soap even though I was asking the whole time what the word meant. 
When I first got pregnant with Atlas my girlfriends knew that I never used the "p" word. They would tease me and make me say it 3 times in a row every time we saw each other. The first time I cried (as an adult) but before he was born I was to the point of laughing.

SO, USING CORRECT WORDS IS IMPORTANT TO ME.

I dont want my children to think their body, made by God, is in any bit shameful. It is not.

Here we go: the kids are 6 and 8, Mommy and Daddy got pregnant again, and there is a baby somehow growing in mommy's belly.

First things first, no. It is not in my belly. It is in my uterus. Only women have uterus.

Soon I will post about when we told the kids at 12 weeks. I was bumping too big to hide it anymore and they were the first to know.

That first night I showed the kids some videos of the baby growing inside a body. It's not unusual for all of us to watch videos of babies being born, but how did it get there? When Atlas saw the sperm unite with the egg he said, "Oh! So the daddy sperm happens when you kiss." Not exactly... guess we will get to that, but probably save all that for very last.

So here we go again!
Starting over, older, more patient, and we think we have this parent thing down!

We are having our third baby in the Spring of 2019!